4 Ways I Find Contentment on Mother’s Day (and how you can too)

*As I am writing this post, I want to make sure that no one thinks that my family doesn’t appreciate me or treat me kindly. My husband and children are wonderful to me! I am truly blessed.

Mother’s Day is coming up in a few days. It’s a time to celebrate our mothers and a time to be celebrated by our families. But what if it feels like no one really cares to celebrate us the way we wish they would?

Several years ago, I found myself outside on a warm, Sunday afternoon in May sitting on the steps of my kid’s playhouse.

It was Mother’s Day.

I remember feeling so frustrated, sad, used, and mad. My husband was inside taking a nap and I was outside watching one of my small children who no longer napped. I remember muttering and complaining to myself about how all he cared about what taking a nap when I just wanted a break.

How could he not understand that I wanted a break from being a mom for just one day?

Why couldn’t I be the one taking a nap?

Over the years, I have learned a few things.  For this reason, every year on mother’s day, I check myself in these 4 ways:

  1. How’s my attitude?

Do I think that just because Mother’s Day is a day on the calendar that my family must do everything for me?

I make sure that I don’t discount all the wonderful things that my husband and children do for me every day of the year.

So what if they don’t buy me flowers for Mother’s Day?

Every single time that my husband does the dishes for me when I’m too busy or to give me a break, he is loving me. Every single time that my children help me around the house or give me a hug they are loving me.

  1. What is my expectation?

Am I expecting to be spoiled all day long by my family?

Do I want them to make me breakfast, lunch, and supper?

Do I want to have to do nothing all day long?

Most of the time, what I think I want is not what I really want. When I take the time to examine my heart, I realize that what I really want is to enjoy my family. If I change my expectation to being loving and spending time with my family, I can’t be disappointed.

  1. Don’t forget Communication

On that note, I have learned that if there are some (reasonable) things that I would like my family to do for me, I need to communicate with them.

Seriously, ladies, your husband’s aren’t mind-readers. Neither are our children. We shouldn’t expect them just to KNOW exactly what we want. What I want is not what you want. We are all different, so don’t forget to communicate.

  1. Thinking of Others

What about your Mom?

Your Mother-in-law?

Another Mom around you?

Just because we are mothers doesn’t mean we should forget to honor our own Moms and any other Mothers around us. There are many women who are living through grief on mother’s day. Perhaps, they have lost a child, are unable to have a child, or their family cares nothing for mother’s day. Perhaps, we could do something for one of them. Perhaps, we could think of someone else more highly than ourselves.

With those thoughts, I want to wish each and every one of you a happiest Mother’s Day!

Tell me, how do you find contentment and happiness on Mother’s Day?

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18 thoughts on “4 Ways I Find Contentment on Mother’s Day (and how you can too)

  1. I like this article Rosanna! It’s simply put and to the point, while also being very relatable and offering helpful solutions. Good work on the blogging! (and the mothering/wifing!!) =)

    1. Thanks for the comment, Alicja! I’m glad that you found the article relatable. Best wishes with your mothering!

    1. Meg, exactly! We can really set ourselves up for failure by having expectations. Thanks for stopping by! 🙂

  2. Your honesty shines through, Rosanna.
    Everyday is Mother’s Day, Wife’s Day, Woman’s Day…in my book anyway. But then I’m retired and don’t have young children to look after any longer, or grandchildren, so it’s easy for me to say, sadly.

    Remembering other women on Mother’s Day is a great idea. There are so many who are lonely and would love a card, call or some other thoughtful acknowledge. However, let’s not leave it there but remember them throughout the year!

    Blessings!

    1. Cindy, thanks for stopping by. I agree we need to remember other women all throughout the year as well.

  3. Very nice post! Our attitude makes all the difference! And sometimes we need to consider whether or not we have been behaving like we should so our family will WANT to do things for us.

    Personally, we don’t make a big deal about holidays like Valentine’s Day and Mother’s Day. We make the effort to be considerate of one another all year round. We make special family time for birthdays, but keep that small too. I do make sure that I consider my mother-in-law and stepmother because those holidays are important to them.

    Keeping my blessings in front of me always keeps my heart content, for I have more than I deserve on any day.

    1. I love how you said that “Keeping my blessings in front of me always keeps my heart content, for I have more than I deserve on any day.” Isn’t that the truth? The world tells us that someone *Must* do something special for us on various holidays, but really we are all already blessed. Thanks for stopping by, Angela!

  4. Love this! We actually aren’t big on celebrating holidays…except I get more excited for Christmas. It sounds funny, or party-pooperish but really we just want to live everyday to its fullest and sometimes forget about special occasions. I am a bad planner too so it’s funny when family asks us and we (hubby and I) both kind of look at each other like oops! What I love about Mother’s Day at my church is that they gave each lady a flower. I think it is so thoughtful. It’s at the heart of it all that is what counts. Glad I found you here!

    1. Thanks for stopping by, Meghan! I hear you. At times, I get annoyed at all the expectations that we “should” have done something for all the holidays. It’s like if we didn’t, then either myself or my hubby are bad spouses.

  5. Oh my goodness. This is brilliant. You’ve hit the nail right on the head here. I feel challenged to prepare my heart this mother’s day too. I love how you talk about preparing our hearts to make sure that we know what we want, communicate it, and understand our expectations.
    So so so good.

    My mom-in-law and I are going to take the family on a picnic 🙂 My mom is overseas but I still send her a message. Being grateful for the moms in our lives and who they’ve shaped us to be is so important.

    1. Allie, I’m so glad that this helped remind you that we need to be preparing our hearts. I also love that you are taking the family on a picnic. I asked my husband to take me out for Chicken this year and if the weather’s nice go to the park. Our weather has been dismal, lately.

  6. I’ve been there before, and you are so right. If we go into Mother’s Day with a good attitude and the right expectations, then we’ll be grateful for any way our family shows us love, big or small.

  7. oooh yes! Expectations are so very important and so is communication…. I learned this after my very first mothers day when my husband came home with the worst smelling blue bath salts ever because he totally spaced mothers day and getting me a gift and it was the best thing left in the aisle of mothers day gifts when he went shopping early that Sunday morning … lol I’m still married to the man 28 years later, so I forgave me, but we sure do
    laugh about it a lot. Thanks for linking up with #TuneInThursday last week. Hope to see you tomorrow too.

    1. Lol! That’s a great story, Debbie! Gifts aren’t a love language for me, but I always enjoy acts of service. I’m learning to communicate what I’d like because often I don’t get it if I don’t.

  8. Thanks for sharing these thoughts. Having lost both a daughter and my mother, Mother’s Day feels differently for me. I’m still grateful for my two daughters that I do have here, and for a good life with my mother when she was still alive.

    1. I’m so sorry for your losses, Lisa. I cannot imagine having lost a daughter. I suppose that, at times, losses do make us grateful for what we do have. Take care!

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